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By Sharon A. Castellanos
Perinatal Nurse Practitioner
San José State Alumna
Incoming Doctor of Nursing Practice Student

Brandon

Sharon's son Brandon

The conversation about my son’s car accident, in 2006 when he was only 18, often leads to this question: Did my work as a nurse help me cope with the loss?  As a parent, when you hear the words “I’m sorry” nothing in your background matters.  That loss is devastating and you are no longer a nurse — you are entirely a grieving mother.  What helped in coming to terms with Brandon’s death was not a career in healthcare or even a life dedicated to patients and families.  I found my solace in the conversation my son and I had about organ and tissue donation.  It was his last wish that I was able to honor, and his generosity gave the gift of life and quality of life for others.

Brandon’s selfless motivation has become the cause of my life.  All of my ability and training — including a nursing degree, license and certification from San José State — is now going into Brandon’s Crossroads Foundation.  This nonprofit will give students the information they need to make informed consent as they fill out organ donor cards with their drivers’ licenses starting as young as age 16.  The foundation also has a message for parents.  It is heart wrenching to think of your child’s mortality, but that conversation is a godsend if that horrible day ever comes.  Please have the hard conversation with your child about their end of life wishes.

Persistence and tenacity, those attributes built by my early experiences in a family of migrant farm workers, have taken over my life.  This month, I join the first class of students in the Fresno State and San José State joint Doctor of Nursing Practice Program.  The DNP will add to the skills I can draw on to preserve Brandon’s legacy in the foundation.  The program will also allow me to study family decision making in organ and tissue donation as my primary research focus and project.

The ability to identify with another person is the hallmark of a compassionate caregiver.  I empathize deeply with every parent, spouse or loved one who hears the words “I’m sorry.”  As a mom who has made the difficult call on tissue donation, and a nurse who has seen the overwhelming gratitude of organ recipients, I know the choice is worth it.

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1 Comment to “The Conversation”

  1. Toby Adelman RN, PhD, Faculty from San José, Says:

    Sharon, welcome to the DNP program.
    I look forward to meeting you. I have included a link below with my summer experience of donating my left kidney to someone That I did not know prior. My 16-year-old expressed her views on my action to do so in the Vimeo (link at the end of the article) my recipient and I chose to do to inspire others to consider living kidney donation.

    All the best to you in your studies.
    Thank you for sharing your story and carrying on Brandon’s gifts.
    Toby

    http://www.jweekly.com/article/full/65932/gift-of-life-loyal-reader-donates-kidney-to-longtime-j.-editor/

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