It is the first day of college, you’re ready for school, you just arrived on campus, but you realize you’re lost and don’t see any familiar faces. You don’t know whether to interrupt the professor talking on the phone or to walk up to the group of friends sitting together who will probably all look at you as you ask for directions. You are shy and can’t build the courage to ask so you keep walking and end up being 20 minutes late to your first class after a janitor helped you find your building. THIS is a problem and it is also how a freshman tends to stand out on campus. As a new adult, confidence is essential. You are in charge of your life, but sometimes we are in a situation where we rather not ask questions to avoid looking stupid. From personal experience, I believe, there are 3 easy ways to achieve confidence. It may take time, but it is easier than you think.
First, make sure you did everything possible to find the solution to your problem before asking for help. You are your first resource so look and listen attentively at all times and learn from other people’s mistakes. You become that much more knowledgeable when you are able to observe and give it a try on your own.
Second, mentally prepare yourself for negativity. Unfortunately, you meet people who can be rude or don’t have good social skills so you have to be able respond appropriately without making things worse. As angry or insulted as you may be, don’t be rude back, be assertive. If you know your comment or question was appropriate then hold your head up high and expect nothing, but an appropriate answer in return.
Lastly, treat others how you will like to be treated. If you respect others, others will respect you. Simple as that, but also realize, that while on campus, people are constantly stressing out for many reasons so try to keep an open mind and don’t take anything personally, especially from strangers.
College life is not easy, but with a positive attitude and the proper advice from peers, you’ll do great!
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